When Lying Becomes a Lifestyle - Sara Al-Qarni
Lying does not start big; it often begins with a small word that the person thinks will go unnoticed, but over time they become accustomed to it, then defend it, then find themselves building another lie on top of it, until it turns into a lifestyle they cannot escape.
At first, a person lies to avoid a situation or to maintain an image they have created for themselves, but with repetition, lying becomes part of their personality, and they no longer distinguish between what they actually experienced and what they invented in their imagination, because repeatedly telling the story makes them believe it before asking others to believe it.
And when they fear the truth being exposed, they start inventing justifications and excuses, adding new details to make their narrative more convincing. The more their fear grows, the more complex the story becomes, until they become a prisoner to it, needing to remember every lie they told to avoid contradicting themselves.
The problem is that lying consumes not only the trust of others but also the liar themselves. They live in constant anxiety, fearing that someone who knows the truth might appear, or that a situation might reveal their contradictions. Therefore, they find no real comfort, because a lie always needs constant guarding.
As for honesty, although it may be difficult in some situations, it gives its owner a peace that nothing can buy. An honest person does not need to remember stories or invent excuses, because the truth remains constant no matter how much time passes.
Perhaps the most dangerous aspect of lying is that the liar may gradually lose people's trust. Once trust is lost, even the truth becomes suspect, even if the person is being truthful this time. Reputation is built over years, but it can collapse due to a long-standing bad habit.
Life does not need a perfect person, but rather a person who is honest with themselves before being honest with others. Admitting a mistake is far easier than building an entire life on non-existent narratives.
In the end, lying may succeed in postponing the truth, but it cannot cancel it. The truth has great patience, and one day it finds its way to the light. Then the person realizes that the hardest lie was not the one they told others, but the one they convinced themselves of.
Original source: Al-Jazirah
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