I have seen in life and on social media images of those who give their trust to everyone, consulting everyone, listening to everyone, and following the advice of any advisor. That is why we often hear: 'I was shocked, he betrayed my trust!'

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This problem may appear more in some women, due to the prevalence of emotional sensitivity and quick empathy among many of them. We must realize that not everyone who appeals to your emotions wants your best interest. The wise person balances mercy and caution, verifies information, prepares for risks before they occur, and does not let emotion affect his judgment of others.

In the biography of our Prophet (peace be upon him and his family), there is an incident that illustrates the necessity of caution before giving trust to others. Umar ibn al-Khattab, Ayyash ibn Abi Rabi'a, and Hisham ibn al-As ibn Wa'il (may God be pleased with them) had agreed to meet at a place called al-Tanadib above Sarif, to be there at dawn, then migrate to Medina. Umar and Ayyash met, but Hisham was detained from them. When they arrived in Medina and stayed at Quba, Abu Jahl and his brother al-Harith came to Ayyash — and their mother was the same, Asma bint Mukharriba — and said to him: 'Your mother has sworn that no comb shall touch her head, nor shall she seek shade from the sun until she sees you.' Ayyash felt compassion for her. Umar ibn al-Khattab (may God be pleased with him) said: 'O Ayyash, by God, these people only want to seduce you from your religion, so beware of them. By God, if lice bothered your mother, she would comb her hair, and if the heat of Mecca became severe, she would seek shade.' But Ayyash insisted on going with them to fulfill his mother's oath. Umar, in a preemptive step to address the consequences of this excessive trust, said: 'Since you have done what you did, take this she-camel of mine. It is a noble, easy-to-ride camel. Keep to its back, and if you sense any treachery from them, escape on it.'

He set out with them on the camel. When they were on the way, Abu Jahl said to him: 'O son of my mother, by God, my camel has become heavy. Will you not let me ride your camel instead?' So Ayyash granted his enemy an advantage without justification, removing the safety element he possessed. He said: 'Yes.' They both made their camels kneel to switch mounts. When they were on the ground, they seized the moment of weakness, attacked him, bound him, and tied him up. Then they entered Mecca with him in broad daylight, tied up, and said: 'O people of Mecca, do this to your fools, as we have done to this fool of ours.'

Conclusion: Trust is a precious treasure. Do not grant it until you see in its possessor proven honesty, supportive actions, and witnessed trustworthiness. [email protected]